JJsMom
03-26-2006, 01:01 PM
Keep in mind that I am very hormonal today, so I might be exaggerating this a little. Today has been a really hard day for all of us and I just feel like something has to change. I have been getting a lot more "no's" lately and a lot more "That IS okay for JJ to do!" from him lately. He seems to be arguing with me so much, but I do know that it takes two to argue so I accept my part in that. I feel like I'm always telling him no and always telling him that he may not speak to me that way. It feels so frustrating.
I just wrote a long stroy about rest time and how frustrating it was, but I could answer my own post, I was impatient, he was over tired and I should have seen that it wasn't working long before it escalated. :blush
Wow, this post is all over the place, I really just need to talk this out and see if I have a good plan going. I feel like I should not accept him speaking to me disrespectfully. If he says something like "No, I'm NOT gonna do it", should I just pick him up and "help" him do it? Like washing his hads for example. We used to say "okay, time to wash your hands...let's go wash up...come on JJ" now I feel like we should say "It's time to wash your hands...can you get up on the stool yourself or do you need help?" then tell him I'm counting to five? I guess it seems like a lot to ask of a 2 1/2 y.o but on the other hand, giving him ten chances seems ridiculous too.
Then getting him dressed is always such a huge chore, we just fight about it everyday. I try to have fun, I try to be creative and nothing works, should I just give him a chance to do it, then help him by holding on to him?
One last thing is bedtime, now that he isn't nursing anymore, it's hard to wind him down. We have our routine and we read in bed for awhile before we turn the lights out and then I tell him a story or sing to him, but lately he is just trying to roll into me, he isn't laying down, he keeps saying my name over and over and over.
These things probably seem really silly to you guys. I know this will all pass, but I'm feeling so tired and frustrated and my dh is so tired of these battles, he just told me "something about our discipline style isn't working." He is completely on board with GBD but is frustrated too. We go over to punitive so easily and sometimes I try so hard to avoid that, so I go to permissive. I'm trying to find the line here and today it all seems very blurred to me.
Please keep in mind that I'm pg and I got up at 5:30 am and I am exhausted.
I just wrote a long stroy about rest time and how frustrating it was, but I could answer my own post, I was impatient, he was over tired and I should have seen that it wasn't working long before it escalated. :blush
Wow, this post is all over the place, I really just need to talk this out and see if I have a good plan going. I feel like I should not accept him speaking to me disrespectfully. If he says something like "No, I'm NOT gonna do it", should I just pick him up and "help" him do it? Like washing his hads for example. We used to say "okay, time to wash your hands...let's go wash up...come on JJ" now I feel like we should say "It's time to wash your hands...can you get up on the stool yourself or do you need help?" then tell him I'm counting to five? I guess it seems like a lot to ask of a 2 1/2 y.o but on the other hand, giving him ten chances seems ridiculous too.
Then getting him dressed is always such a huge chore, we just fight about it everyday. I try to have fun, I try to be creative and nothing works, should I just give him a chance to do it, then help him by holding on to him?
One last thing is bedtime, now that he isn't nursing anymore, it's hard to wind him down. We have our routine and we read in bed for awhile before we turn the lights out and then I tell him a story or sing to him, but lately he is just trying to roll into me, he isn't laying down, he keeps saying my name over and over and over.
These things probably seem really silly to you guys. I know this will all pass, but I'm feeling so tired and frustrated and my dh is so tired of these battles, he just told me "something about our discipline style isn't working." He is completely on board with GBD but is frustrated too. We go over to punitive so easily and sometimes I try so hard to avoid that, so I go to permissive. I'm trying to find the line here and today it all seems very blurred to me.
Please keep in mind that I'm pg and I got up at 5:30 am and I am exhausted.