SansSouci
03-26-2006, 12:22 AM
Another ? about my nearly 3 y/o dd.
Tonight I was putting her to bed, and she was being sooooooooooo slow. I put up with a LOT of dilly dallying, so please don't think that I just tried to rush rush rush with her. But it was time to get into her bed (to do the final part: read, sing, tuck in), and she wasn't listening/obeying. (There was a LOT of not obeying going on with the entire bedtime routine tonight.) So she refused to get into her bed, so I told her if she didn't get on her bed by the time I counted to 3, then I wouldn't be reading her books for bedtime. So I count "1" and she starts moving toward the bed. So, I didn't continue to 2... so she stops! The idea (for me) is that I just want her to do it, and I have a limit (to count to 3) that she needs to do it by. Well, she LIKES to push the limits lately. And though I don't think she was necessarily pushing the limits (maybe she was?), she was wanting to hear me count all the way to 3 while she was completing the task. I thought it was kind of me to stop counting, to respect the fact that she was moving. But she wanted me to keep counting.
Is it just a game? I just need to think of it as a playful thing that she wants me to count all the way through her completion? Because if my mom were counting me, I would prefer her to stop counting as soon as I started doing the task. KWIM?
Any tips? The line between respect (my respect for her), grace, and obedience is so hard to walk sometimes.
-Elizabeth
Tonight I was putting her to bed, and she was being sooooooooooo slow. I put up with a LOT of dilly dallying, so please don't think that I just tried to rush rush rush with her. But it was time to get into her bed (to do the final part: read, sing, tuck in), and she wasn't listening/obeying. (There was a LOT of not obeying going on with the entire bedtime routine tonight.) So she refused to get into her bed, so I told her if she didn't get on her bed by the time I counted to 3, then I wouldn't be reading her books for bedtime. So I count "1" and she starts moving toward the bed. So, I didn't continue to 2... so she stops! The idea (for me) is that I just want her to do it, and I have a limit (to count to 3) that she needs to do it by. Well, she LIKES to push the limits lately. And though I don't think she was necessarily pushing the limits (maybe she was?), she was wanting to hear me count all the way to 3 while she was completing the task. I thought it was kind of me to stop counting, to respect the fact that she was moving. But she wanted me to keep counting.
Is it just a game? I just need to think of it as a playful thing that she wants me to count all the way through her completion? Because if my mom were counting me, I would prefer her to stop counting as soon as I started doing the task. KWIM?
Any tips? The line between respect (my respect for her), grace, and obedience is so hard to walk sometimes.
-Elizabeth