ozmummy
03-03-2006, 07:16 PM
I am going a bit nuts here on this issue...
ds 6yo will bait/tease his sister 2.5yo. And she *screams*.
I am unsure how to respond. I would like him to stop (obviously), but I don't want her to develop a "victim" mentality either kwim?
Here is an example:
Last night dd was at the table eating. Ds finds her special doll, and races around the room with it - "Baby Jack is flying!!!!". He's going round and round the lounge with it - and I could see his eyes keep looking at her, waiting for a reaction.
Luckily, she didn't notice, and I said, *fiercely* "Give Baby Jack back to your sister". He sort of threw the doll onto the table next to his sister :rolleyes.
So that time, she didn't react because she didn't realise.
So usually she does realise and would scream "Lok!!!!STOP!!!" "Baby Jack!!!!!" "I don't like it!!!!" or something like that. And SCREAM!!!!
Then I would intervene, "Can you see what Star is doing?"
ds" Screaming"
me"What does that mean?"
ds"Stop"
me"Ok stop/give it back"
That dialogue has just started in the last day or two, because I talked with him about it - what her words mean at that time, and what he needs to do in response..
Is this OK? Do you think it will help?
Is there something else I can do? What about making amends?
And what about times where it's just one thing after another...?
Thanks
ds 6yo will bait/tease his sister 2.5yo. And she *screams*.
I am unsure how to respond. I would like him to stop (obviously), but I don't want her to develop a "victim" mentality either kwim?
Here is an example:
Last night dd was at the table eating. Ds finds her special doll, and races around the room with it - "Baby Jack is flying!!!!". He's going round and round the lounge with it - and I could see his eyes keep looking at her, waiting for a reaction.
Luckily, she didn't notice, and I said, *fiercely* "Give Baby Jack back to your sister". He sort of threw the doll onto the table next to his sister :rolleyes.
So that time, she didn't react because she didn't realise.
So usually she does realise and would scream "Lok!!!!STOP!!!" "Baby Jack!!!!!" "I don't like it!!!!" or something like that. And SCREAM!!!!
Then I would intervene, "Can you see what Star is doing?"
ds" Screaming"
me"What does that mean?"
ds"Stop"
me"Ok stop/give it back"
That dialogue has just started in the last day or two, because I talked with him about it - what her words mean at that time, and what he needs to do in response..
Is this OK? Do you think it will help?
Is there something else I can do? What about making amends?
And what about times where it's just one thing after another...?
Thanks