LadybugSam
02-17-2006, 11:38 AM
OK this might be int he wrong forum but...
Dh's grandfather died Wednesday morning. Sinse then we have been spending a lot of time with grandma because she needs her family close to her during this time. The first day we went over there, EVERYBODY was there. Dh has a huge family and they were all there. Having the baby there was good for the family i think. Seeing him run around like crazy and explore the house and run outside was a good distraction i think. Well Caleb (who is 2) was acting a lot more hyper than normal. It was the same way he acted this last christmas, having all the family together like that is way out of the norm for him because we usually stay at home most of the time and aren't around a lot of people.
I figured DH woudl help, and he did, a little. FIL and MIL also helped with the baby some. But he still kept trying to climb up the stairs, talk to the fish, push buttons, etc. Honestly if that was all that he was doing i was fine with having him over there. I didn't want to upset him but he seemed totally oblivious to the fact that his great-grandpa wasn't there and he didn't seem upset in anyway either.
Well on Thursday he was still in his over-active mood. I went to a friends house and he played with her kids. He was WAY hyper. We've been doing that a lot in the past couple weeks but it was still a kind of new experience for him so i just kind of chalked it up to him being excited to have cousins to play with. He was doing the same thing he was doing 3 days earlier when we were there last, chasing the girls around the house with the cat whip thing (its this stick with a long "tail" made of feathers that cats love). But after about an hour he still wouldn't calm down. He had a hard time stopping himself from doing things. He wouldn't sit down for anything, he kept hitting the fish tank (a usual behavior but this time we couldn't distract him) and when i went to take the whip away from him because his cousins needed to stop playing (way too tired and he couldn't read their signals) he hit me with it. :O We had a few other issues with hitting that day too. He didn't nap and seemed way overtired and he didn't eat much either that day. At the last minute when we were getting ready to head home for the day we were invited to diner at grandma's house. Once again he started acting like a little crazy person. Runing aroudn "discovering" things, not sitting down (even to eat and he hadn't eaten ALL DAY). Daddy went to keep him from going up the stairs and he threw himself on the floor and started kicking at him.
Him kicking at us when he's throwing a trantrum isn't totally unusual, but he had been very INTENSE all day long, and him being violent like was kind of the theme of the day which bothers me. Aparantly he's a lot more affected by this than i thought he would be. I know he doesn't understand that his great grandpa died, and i even doubt he noticed him missing from that huge group of people, but i think he knows that everyone was upset. And going ot grandmas house really upsets our usual routine (which has been screwed up for the past 2-3 weeks anyway.
I just don't know what to do. I mean the best thing for Caleb would to just not take him over there for a while and to get him comfy at home and get his routine set back in. But ont he other hand, grandma just lost her husband of 74 years, she needs her family. And DH and i both have a need to be around our family during this time. MIL told me tonight that grandma was kind of worried about the baby last night because she doesn't want him to get hurt at her house (its been YEARS sinse they've had babies around, their house is not babyproofed).
I don't know what to do. I just can't imagine NOT going over to see her. But aparantly this is really rough on Caleb. DH is having a hard time with it because he...well he just has a hard time figuring out that theres a reason why caleb acts up. Like the last time Caleb got shots he was acting clingy and micheivious and he threw tantrums a lot. He couldn't figure out that, hey caleb has a fever, he must not be feeling well, he needs some extra attention.
WWYD?
Dh's grandfather died Wednesday morning. Sinse then we have been spending a lot of time with grandma because she needs her family close to her during this time. The first day we went over there, EVERYBODY was there. Dh has a huge family and they were all there. Having the baby there was good for the family i think. Seeing him run around like crazy and explore the house and run outside was a good distraction i think. Well Caleb (who is 2) was acting a lot more hyper than normal. It was the same way he acted this last christmas, having all the family together like that is way out of the norm for him because we usually stay at home most of the time and aren't around a lot of people.
I figured DH woudl help, and he did, a little. FIL and MIL also helped with the baby some. But he still kept trying to climb up the stairs, talk to the fish, push buttons, etc. Honestly if that was all that he was doing i was fine with having him over there. I didn't want to upset him but he seemed totally oblivious to the fact that his great-grandpa wasn't there and he didn't seem upset in anyway either.
Well on Thursday he was still in his over-active mood. I went to a friends house and he played with her kids. He was WAY hyper. We've been doing that a lot in the past couple weeks but it was still a kind of new experience for him so i just kind of chalked it up to him being excited to have cousins to play with. He was doing the same thing he was doing 3 days earlier when we were there last, chasing the girls around the house with the cat whip thing (its this stick with a long "tail" made of feathers that cats love). But after about an hour he still wouldn't calm down. He had a hard time stopping himself from doing things. He wouldn't sit down for anything, he kept hitting the fish tank (a usual behavior but this time we couldn't distract him) and when i went to take the whip away from him because his cousins needed to stop playing (way too tired and he couldn't read their signals) he hit me with it. :O We had a few other issues with hitting that day too. He didn't nap and seemed way overtired and he didn't eat much either that day. At the last minute when we were getting ready to head home for the day we were invited to diner at grandma's house. Once again he started acting like a little crazy person. Runing aroudn "discovering" things, not sitting down (even to eat and he hadn't eaten ALL DAY). Daddy went to keep him from going up the stairs and he threw himself on the floor and started kicking at him.
Him kicking at us when he's throwing a trantrum isn't totally unusual, but he had been very INTENSE all day long, and him being violent like was kind of the theme of the day which bothers me. Aparantly he's a lot more affected by this than i thought he would be. I know he doesn't understand that his great grandpa died, and i even doubt he noticed him missing from that huge group of people, but i think he knows that everyone was upset. And going ot grandmas house really upsets our usual routine (which has been screwed up for the past 2-3 weeks anyway.
I just don't know what to do. I mean the best thing for Caleb would to just not take him over there for a while and to get him comfy at home and get his routine set back in. But ont he other hand, grandma just lost her husband of 74 years, she needs her family. And DH and i both have a need to be around our family during this time. MIL told me tonight that grandma was kind of worried about the baby last night because she doesn't want him to get hurt at her house (its been YEARS sinse they've had babies around, their house is not babyproofed).
I don't know what to do. I just can't imagine NOT going over to see her. But aparantly this is really rough on Caleb. DH is having a hard time with it because he...well he just has a hard time figuring out that theres a reason why caleb acts up. Like the last time Caleb got shots he was acting clingy and micheivious and he threw tantrums a lot. He couldn't figure out that, hey caleb has a fever, he must not be feeling well, he needs some extra attention.
WWYD?