jammomy
02-08-2006, 06:32 AM
I am not sure where to post this, so please forgive me if it's in the wrong place.
My brother is a high-maintenance person - he wants my undivided attention whenever we visit each other; he is super-sensitive and gets his feelings hurt at the slightest disagreement; he is a perfectionist; he is a finicky eater; he is domineering; he talks loudly, and in public I get embarrassed by him because he does not use discretion in his topics of conversation; he does not like it that I no longer believe in punishments for my children - it REALLY bothers him; he takes control over correcting my children when I am present (which I have told him to stop doing); he is very negative and carries a chip on his shoulder. That being said...
...I have lost my patience with him. He wears me out; I don't have enough energy to deal with him right now. Without going into more detail, my DH and I have set some boundaries for DB, and he does not like it! He doesn't think it's fair and he believes we do not love him. I cannot convince him otherwise. I believe DH and I are using GBD with him. It sounds kinda funny since he's an adult, but the principles can be applied to anyone. However, it has not been easy. I am praying that God will heal him spiritually, emotionally, and physically. Right now, DH and I do not want him to spend much time around our DC's; he is a bitter, angry person and we do not feel it is healthy for our kids to spend alot of time with him. This has been a difficult time for me and I could use some prayer and encouragement. Any support or comments are welcome.
My brother is a high-maintenance person - he wants my undivided attention whenever we visit each other; he is super-sensitive and gets his feelings hurt at the slightest disagreement; he is a perfectionist; he is a finicky eater; he is domineering; he talks loudly, and in public I get embarrassed by him because he does not use discretion in his topics of conversation; he does not like it that I no longer believe in punishments for my children - it REALLY bothers him; he takes control over correcting my children when I am present (which I have told him to stop doing); he is very negative and carries a chip on his shoulder. That being said...
...I have lost my patience with him. He wears me out; I don't have enough energy to deal with him right now. Without going into more detail, my DH and I have set some boundaries for DB, and he does not like it! He doesn't think it's fair and he believes we do not love him. I cannot convince him otherwise. I believe DH and I are using GBD with him. It sounds kinda funny since he's an adult, but the principles can be applied to anyone. However, it has not been easy. I am praying that God will heal him spiritually, emotionally, and physically. Right now, DH and I do not want him to spend much time around our DC's; he is a bitter, angry person and we do not feel it is healthy for our kids to spend alot of time with him. This has been a difficult time for me and I could use some prayer and encouragement. Any support or comments are welcome.