sarahtar
11-24-2005, 08:35 PM
Alright, well, the last few weeks have been pretty bad for me and though I haven't posted here for a few months I know I can count on you ladies for reassurance and sage advice.
I've been kind of harsh with my DS (19 mos) the last few weeks. I don't know why. I've been in a funk, I guess, and he's irritating me more and more. I snap at little things, I've shouted, I've (hanging my head) thrown a few toys across the room in anger, I've been just a STELLAR role model. And I think it's affected our relationship. We used to be so attached, and now I feel all disattached. He doesn't seem to particularly enjoy my company. It seems like he only comes to me when he needs to nurse, but otherwise prefers Daddy, especially when he needs comforting.
And we seem to be caught in a downward circle. I'm more irritable, he's more naughty, I feel like I need to set more limits, he tests them more, I get more irritable, he gets more naughty, etc. This is not the first time this has happened - I seem to go through phases where I'm just not a happy person and then I'll be fine for a few months, and then back.
At any rate. I have pledged anew to be more patient, and we're making some positive steps. I'm saying some affirmations every day and choosing to see DS in a positive light instead of a negative one. (Because, after all, I doubt he's actually just trying to make me mad on purpose.) I'm also going to start working less and playing more. (He doesn't even want me to play with him much these days...)
But please tell me this is repairable. I feel like the bad example in all the "positive discipline" books.
I've been kind of harsh with my DS (19 mos) the last few weeks. I don't know why. I've been in a funk, I guess, and he's irritating me more and more. I snap at little things, I've shouted, I've (hanging my head) thrown a few toys across the room in anger, I've been just a STELLAR role model. And I think it's affected our relationship. We used to be so attached, and now I feel all disattached. He doesn't seem to particularly enjoy my company. It seems like he only comes to me when he needs to nurse, but otherwise prefers Daddy, especially when he needs comforting.
And we seem to be caught in a downward circle. I'm more irritable, he's more naughty, I feel like I need to set more limits, he tests them more, I get more irritable, he gets more naughty, etc. This is not the first time this has happened - I seem to go through phases where I'm just not a happy person and then I'll be fine for a few months, and then back.
At any rate. I have pledged anew to be more patient, and we're making some positive steps. I'm saying some affirmations every day and choosing to see DS in a positive light instead of a negative one. (Because, after all, I doubt he's actually just trying to make me mad on purpose.) I'm also going to start working less and playing more. (He doesn't even want me to play with him much these days...)
But please tell me this is repairable. I feel like the bad example in all the "positive discipline" books.