Beauty4Ashes
10-29-2005, 11:55 AM
Dh and the boys and I went to an eid party (Ramadan will be ending soon) at the hospital cafeteria last night. Thank goodness the food was no where near as spicy as it was last year. Our older son wanted to play the piano a little bit, which was fine with me. Unfortunately this girl who was maybe 4 months older than him (ds is 16 months old now) was hitting him and pushing him away from the piano. Her mother didn’t do anything, she wasn’t even watching. I came up to the girl and told her “no hitting, that’s not nice”. I wanted to smack her across the face, though. She was trying to crowd ds away from the piano so I kept on putting him back by the piano, I wasn’t about to let this little brat keep him from enjoying the piano. This girl has a reputation for being mean, btw.
There was another little boy who was maybe 18 months old and he kept pushing ds down. His parents were there watching him, but they didn’t really do anything either. I was proud of my little one because he was very nice with the other children. He didn’t hit or shove anyone. I started thinking that I should reconsider what I thought was behavior that deserved a scolding. I had been getting so frustrated because he would get into my onions and garlic and peal them and spread them around the house. I was getting irritated by how he would climb onto the kitchen chairs several times a day even though I’d told him a million times not to do that. In the grand scheme of things, he is just exploring, not being mean or trying to bug me.
One last thing…there was a lady there with her husband and her 3 month old ds. She is an intern in medicine with dh and her dh is in his second year of residency in medicine. They are both working 70+ hours a week, and his mother stays with the baby. She was asking me if I had enough milk for my 4 month old, and I said yes. She said that she has very little milk and has been giving her ds formula at night and sometimes during the day. She asked (jokingly?) if I could give some of my milk to her baby. I said, then Danny and Adam would be brothers. I just feel so sorry for that little baby, his parents are almost never home. This lady was so determined to breast feed, she was pumping the milk for him. Then Ramadan came and she was fasting—no food or liquid from sunrise to sunset for an entire month. From the stress and not getting any fluids, her milk supply dwindled to almost nothing. Why would a mother not think of her baby? If she would not have fasted, she would probably have made a bit more milk? I just wanted to shake both of them. She was pregnant at the time that she did the interview for residency. Why would she go for residency (especially one as tough as medicine/neurology) when she would be having a baby, especially since her dh would also be working long hours? I know that it is tough for foreigners to get accepted, but what about the baby???? Dh commented to me that Adam didn’t look like a happy baby. I held my tongue. He said, I think probably she is a good mother, she comes home from the hospital during the day for a couple of hours to care for him (where we live is right behind the hospital). I just feel so frustrated by these women who have their babies but then are too busy to even care for them. I am not saying that women should not be doctors, but I just wish that they would think a little about what they are doing.
Tammy
ps-I am not against women working, but it just irritates me when they choose something that will allow them no time at all with their children, esp. when they are infants.
There was another little boy who was maybe 18 months old and he kept pushing ds down. His parents were there watching him, but they didn’t really do anything either. I was proud of my little one because he was very nice with the other children. He didn’t hit or shove anyone. I started thinking that I should reconsider what I thought was behavior that deserved a scolding. I had been getting so frustrated because he would get into my onions and garlic and peal them and spread them around the house. I was getting irritated by how he would climb onto the kitchen chairs several times a day even though I’d told him a million times not to do that. In the grand scheme of things, he is just exploring, not being mean or trying to bug me.
One last thing…there was a lady there with her husband and her 3 month old ds. She is an intern in medicine with dh and her dh is in his second year of residency in medicine. They are both working 70+ hours a week, and his mother stays with the baby. She was asking me if I had enough milk for my 4 month old, and I said yes. She said that she has very little milk and has been giving her ds formula at night and sometimes during the day. She asked (jokingly?) if I could give some of my milk to her baby. I said, then Danny and Adam would be brothers. I just feel so sorry for that little baby, his parents are almost never home. This lady was so determined to breast feed, she was pumping the milk for him. Then Ramadan came and she was fasting—no food or liquid from sunrise to sunset for an entire month. From the stress and not getting any fluids, her milk supply dwindled to almost nothing. Why would a mother not think of her baby? If she would not have fasted, she would probably have made a bit more milk? I just wanted to shake both of them. She was pregnant at the time that she did the interview for residency. Why would she go for residency (especially one as tough as medicine/neurology) when she would be having a baby, especially since her dh would also be working long hours? I know that it is tough for foreigners to get accepted, but what about the baby???? Dh commented to me that Adam didn’t look like a happy baby. I held my tongue. He said, I think probably she is a good mother, she comes home from the hospital during the day for a couple of hours to care for him (where we live is right behind the hospital). I just feel so frustrated by these women who have their babies but then are too busy to even care for them. I am not saying that women should not be doctors, but I just wish that they would think a little about what they are doing.
Tammy
ps-I am not against women working, but it just irritates me when they choose something that will allow them no time at all with their children, esp. when they are infants.