ally
09-11-2005, 02:57 AM
hi all,
haven't posted much mainly lurking but i am in a confusing place at the moment. I need help/advice/anything! :banghead
my ds has been co-sleeping and bf through the night for all his 2.4 yrs. 3weeks ago i my waters broke while 35wks pregnant. On advice from my midwife we had to wean ds straight away to prevent premature labour starting. At this time he wasn't feeding much in the day at all...only if really upset or bored. He nursed to sleep and woke 1-2 in night to feed and sometimes in early morning had a 30-40 min feed (which i wasn't enjoying at all).
To wean him i slept in lounge room whiled DH comforted him, the first few nights were heart breaking for me :bheart as i head him crying for mummy. I was on strict bed rest so even in the day his mumma had become suddenly unavailable , family and friends were on a roster to come help with him during the day and he became easier to distract as the days went buy. We told him 'boobies' were broken and mummy was 'sickee'
11 days later i gave birth to DS#2 at home as planned. I didnt bf #1 until day two when he noticed i was bf the new bubba and he asked for boobie and since they were no longer 'broken' i let him feed...much to the dissapointment of DH.
Anyway #2 got jaundice on second day so we ended up in hospital for 3 nights, this being the first time i had ever been away overnight. By the time i got back home #1 had been weaned for 2 weeks. He then came down with a diarrhea and vomiting bug. i decided to return to bf him as he had gone through so much and i thought bf would help him to adjust to it all as well as sustain him through the virus.
He slept through a couple of nights since i have been home and returned to the family bedroom, but now he is screaming hysterically for booby, he awoke 2 nights ago at 4.30 am and as i had decided to keep the nightweaning going i told him boobies were asleep..you can have boobie when sun comes up etc, this went till 6am with him crying, when i feed him in the lounge room as the sun rose
Last night he woke at 11.30 am crying in his intense manner until midnight when i decided to give in, he fed on and off, which i found very frustrating, till 130am when he finally went to sleep, then i was up and down with new bubba till 5.30 am when #1 woke up again crying to feed...which i did. :sa
Then all this morning he feed 10 or more times, he was either crying hysterically if i said no or later...or he was feeding. My DH ended up taking him to park to give me a break..muttering that if i had left him weaned this wouldn't be happening now...
after his day sleep and talking to my sister i decided to let him feed whenever he wanted so i wasn't going on a cry hysterically till he gets bf thus creating a cry/reward pattern. This seemed to work in the afternoon, in that he feed so many times i cant count but we didnt have the intensity of emotion.
i have decided to try to night wean again. I will sleep in lounge room with bubba and leave #1 in with DH. If he gets too hysterical he can come in with me as DH has to go to work so needs to sleep. But i will still not feed him until sun comes up.
I guess my question is how long shall i try to night wean....? As he is a high needs/high spirited little boy his crying is so intense i find it really hard to be strong. Also he has had such an up/down last few weeks i don't want to add to it all any more then i have to but i figure if i don't continue to night wean now i will have to leave it for several months and i don't know if that is fair on new bubba and family as a whole?
Does this make sense?? any one been here with an intense little one?
:pray
haven't posted much mainly lurking but i am in a confusing place at the moment. I need help/advice/anything! :banghead
my ds has been co-sleeping and bf through the night for all his 2.4 yrs. 3weeks ago i my waters broke while 35wks pregnant. On advice from my midwife we had to wean ds straight away to prevent premature labour starting. At this time he wasn't feeding much in the day at all...only if really upset or bored. He nursed to sleep and woke 1-2 in night to feed and sometimes in early morning had a 30-40 min feed (which i wasn't enjoying at all).
To wean him i slept in lounge room whiled DH comforted him, the first few nights were heart breaking for me :bheart as i head him crying for mummy. I was on strict bed rest so even in the day his mumma had become suddenly unavailable , family and friends were on a roster to come help with him during the day and he became easier to distract as the days went buy. We told him 'boobies' were broken and mummy was 'sickee'
11 days later i gave birth to DS#2 at home as planned. I didnt bf #1 until day two when he noticed i was bf the new bubba and he asked for boobie and since they were no longer 'broken' i let him feed...much to the dissapointment of DH.
Anyway #2 got jaundice on second day so we ended up in hospital for 3 nights, this being the first time i had ever been away overnight. By the time i got back home #1 had been weaned for 2 weeks. He then came down with a diarrhea and vomiting bug. i decided to return to bf him as he had gone through so much and i thought bf would help him to adjust to it all as well as sustain him through the virus.
He slept through a couple of nights since i have been home and returned to the family bedroom, but now he is screaming hysterically for booby, he awoke 2 nights ago at 4.30 am and as i had decided to keep the nightweaning going i told him boobies were asleep..you can have boobie when sun comes up etc, this went till 6am with him crying, when i feed him in the lounge room as the sun rose
Last night he woke at 11.30 am crying in his intense manner until midnight when i decided to give in, he fed on and off, which i found very frustrating, till 130am when he finally went to sleep, then i was up and down with new bubba till 5.30 am when #1 woke up again crying to feed...which i did. :sa
Then all this morning he feed 10 or more times, he was either crying hysterically if i said no or later...or he was feeding. My DH ended up taking him to park to give me a break..muttering that if i had left him weaned this wouldn't be happening now...
after his day sleep and talking to my sister i decided to let him feed whenever he wanted so i wasn't going on a cry hysterically till he gets bf thus creating a cry/reward pattern. This seemed to work in the afternoon, in that he feed so many times i cant count but we didnt have the intensity of emotion.
i have decided to try to night wean again. I will sleep in lounge room with bubba and leave #1 in with DH. If he gets too hysterical he can come in with me as DH has to go to work so needs to sleep. But i will still not feed him until sun comes up.
I guess my question is how long shall i try to night wean....? As he is a high needs/high spirited little boy his crying is so intense i find it really hard to be strong. Also he has had such an up/down last few weeks i don't want to add to it all any more then i have to but i figure if i don't continue to night wean now i will have to leave it for several months and i don't know if that is fair on new bubba and family as a whole?
Does this make sense?? any one been here with an intense little one?
:pray