akmyilee
09-10-2005, 08:25 AM
Ok, I have really tried with the 5 steps thing...........MOST of the time it works for me pretty well. The problem is that Kyle has kinda "figured it out" as in. He knows that we are going to help after we ask him a couple of times so he is going tomake it impossible for us to help. As in going wet noodle. I know I have asked about this before but I guess I need a refresher because I don't know what to do.
Example:
We are in walmart, Ellie is big enough to sit in the buggy now so I let Kyle walk beside me, if he is getting to wound up I will put him in the buggy until it gets too full and then I put him out. He is constantly hanging on the side of the buggy. I am constantly telling him, walk right beside me, gently hold onto the side, then it goes to don't stand on the side, and then DO NOT TOUCH the buggy. Usually he gets upset and says "I CAN'T" imagaine an extreamly whiny voice, so I tell him yes you can, walk here beside mommy,then he goes limp on the floor, I usually stand next to him (with wierd looks from people walking by) and tell him that when he is willing to walk like a big boy we will go. I know that isn't the best thing to do but I can't come up with anything else.
The same thing just happened. He took the binkies off of the desk and I ask him to put them back and he just dropped them on the floor, I said no you need to put them back, do you want me to help you? He immediatly goes wet noodle and fists up his hands, I picked him up and used my hands and his fists to pick them up and put them back and then put him back on the floor. This seems rediculous to me........and I can't always do this, if I am carrying a bag and the baby too I can not "help" my prefectly capable 3 3/4 yo.
Ok, well that is my frustration...what do ya'll think?
Example:
We are in walmart, Ellie is big enough to sit in the buggy now so I let Kyle walk beside me, if he is getting to wound up I will put him in the buggy until it gets too full and then I put him out. He is constantly hanging on the side of the buggy. I am constantly telling him, walk right beside me, gently hold onto the side, then it goes to don't stand on the side, and then DO NOT TOUCH the buggy. Usually he gets upset and says "I CAN'T" imagaine an extreamly whiny voice, so I tell him yes you can, walk here beside mommy,then he goes limp on the floor, I usually stand next to him (with wierd looks from people walking by) and tell him that when he is willing to walk like a big boy we will go. I know that isn't the best thing to do but I can't come up with anything else.
The same thing just happened. He took the binkies off of the desk and I ask him to put them back and he just dropped them on the floor, I said no you need to put them back, do you want me to help you? He immediatly goes wet noodle and fists up his hands, I picked him up and used my hands and his fists to pick them up and put them back and then put him back on the floor. This seems rediculous to me........and I can't always do this, if I am carrying a bag and the baby too I can not "help" my prefectly capable 3 3/4 yo.
Ok, well that is my frustration...what do ya'll think?