ServingGod
06-18-2005, 09:19 AM
Last night my eldest ds was having a hard time going to bed, He was crying and yelling about everything. My dh and I just looked at each other...and neither of us knew what to do. I went upstairs and laid down with him and he kept yelling I want to be downstairs with you and daddy!!! I just kept saying he had to stay in his bed and I sang him his special song. A few months ago he wouldve been spanked and it looked at as being "disobedient". Finally he turned to me and started sobbing and said "i dont want daddy and you to go on vacation, I want to go with you!" So that was the root of everything. We talked about what he was worried about...he said he wasnt sure if his godmother knew that he didnt eat meat, and just generally had concerns about that. He asked where our dog would go, I said to the kennel and we needed to give her something that smells like us so she isnt scared. He said he wants to give her his shirt, so she would be happy. Then he says " I really DO want to go to my godmothers, you know" This morning first thing he said, Are we going to our godmothers today!!! He was sad when I said no. If I had spanked we wouldve lost that whole conversation and he wouldnt have told me what he was worried about. Im SO happy we have found the better way. :heart