mama2mychildren
04-28-2005, 01:01 PM
DD is two.
How do you handle it when carrying your child, say in a parking lot, and they start to throw a fit and try to throw themselves backwards? DD has been doing this often lately and being 6.5 months pregnant, I have about killed both her and I when she throws me off balance like that. When it happened today I put her and I in the car immediately and told her why she cant do that and held her until she calmed down. She doesnt seem to be getting it though and as she's bigger and wants more independence where its dangerous, I need for her to understand the importance of me carrying her safely and calmly when needed.
Second, I've been reflecting on how many times a day I say "dont" or "no". Its too much. When she was so much younger I would distract or redirect and I can still do that sometimes but when the toddler focus is on completing that action and/or she gets what I call the "challenge twinkle" in her eye, what do you do? I just find myself saying, "Dont play in the phone cord" or "No feet on the dinner table". Our house is pretty kid-friendly and there aren limitations in that sense but I dont know what to do about the little things.
TIA.
How do you handle it when carrying your child, say in a parking lot, and they start to throw a fit and try to throw themselves backwards? DD has been doing this often lately and being 6.5 months pregnant, I have about killed both her and I when she throws me off balance like that. When it happened today I put her and I in the car immediately and told her why she cant do that and held her until she calmed down. She doesnt seem to be getting it though and as she's bigger and wants more independence where its dangerous, I need for her to understand the importance of me carrying her safely and calmly when needed.
Second, I've been reflecting on how many times a day I say "dont" or "no". Its too much. When she was so much younger I would distract or redirect and I can still do that sometimes but when the toddler focus is on completing that action and/or she gets what I call the "challenge twinkle" in her eye, what do you do? I just find myself saying, "Dont play in the phone cord" or "No feet on the dinner table". Our house is pretty kid-friendly and there aren limitations in that sense but I dont know what to do about the little things.
TIA.