Irene
04-28-2005, 10:39 AM
Week 2
Attitude Shift: Harnessing the Power of Attention
Reason: what you focus on you get more of
Discipline Skill: Assertiveness
Value: Respect
Give assertive commans to your children when you want obedience. Use the Following steps:
1) Gain your childs attention. Move close to you child until she looks at you. Say "there you are" and smile :D
2) Tell her what to do in understandable terms
3) Gesture like a traffic cop to provide additional information
4) If you child chooses to obey you, praise her in specific terms. Start with the words "you did it" then describe what she did that led to her success. Avoid general praise such as "great job"
If your child ignores you say "I will show you what I want you to do." then guide your child to success. If she still resists, offer her two positive choices. Alternatively, try using empathy or ask "what would help you _ right now"
When you feel frustrated with your child, express your thoughts or or feelings directly by saying " I dont like it when you ___" "when you ______ I feel _______" then assertively tell her what you want her to do"
Attitude Shift: Harnessing the Power of Attention
Reason: what you focus on you get more of
Discipline Skill: Assertiveness
Value: Respect
Give assertive commans to your children when you want obedience. Use the Following steps:
1) Gain your childs attention. Move close to you child until she looks at you. Say "there you are" and smile :D
2) Tell her what to do in understandable terms
3) Gesture like a traffic cop to provide additional information
4) If you child chooses to obey you, praise her in specific terms. Start with the words "you did it" then describe what she did that led to her success. Avoid general praise such as "great job"
If your child ignores you say "I will show you what I want you to do." then guide your child to success. If she still resists, offer her two positive choices. Alternatively, try using empathy or ask "what would help you _ right now"
When you feel frustrated with your child, express your thoughts or or feelings directly by saying " I dont like it when you ___" "when you ______ I feel _______" then assertively tell her what you want her to do"