Mamatoto
04-25-2005, 01:23 PM
Wow. This is definitely a change for me. I am reading Your Four Year-Old which is helping me understand what dd is going through right now. But I am having a hard time going between being a loving, connected mama and having to almost constantly put boundaries on her, which I know is loving, so maybe it's more like yelling at her to stop!!! :shifty
Take for example today...
Ds is happily standing next to a kitchen chair. Dd decides she wants the chair to reach something so she drags the chair, knocks ds over, drags the chair over top of him. Shows no emotion whatsoever and tells me to shut up when I tell her to sit until I can talk to her as I am comforting ds.
A few moments later she pins him behind a cabinet door. A few moments after that she hits him on the head with a lincoln log. I am telling you I am right there when all this happens but it happens so fast. :banghead
But it's not just her brother. It's any limits that I enforce. I am met with a lot of anger and a lot of confusion like why would it not be alright to knock my brother over if I want the chair?
Some hints to keep me sane here would be appreciated. :pray ;)
Take for example today...
Ds is happily standing next to a kitchen chair. Dd decides she wants the chair to reach something so she drags the chair, knocks ds over, drags the chair over top of him. Shows no emotion whatsoever and tells me to shut up when I tell her to sit until I can talk to her as I am comforting ds.
A few moments later she pins him behind a cabinet door. A few moments after that she hits him on the head with a lincoln log. I am telling you I am right there when all this happens but it happens so fast. :banghead
But it's not just her brother. It's any limits that I enforce. I am met with a lot of anger and a lot of confusion like why would it not be alright to knock my brother over if I want the chair?
Some hints to keep me sane here would be appreciated. :pray ;)