tiglet
04-23-2005, 10:59 PM
So....my friend who was reading Babywise while she was pg, but "too busy" to read anything else, who, when her kiddo was two weeks old said "Oh, no, I won't schedule him" told me last week (at 5 weeks) that her husband and her MIL thought that she needed to "space out his feedings" and that although she was fine with feeding him every hour or two, they thought it was bad for him, and truthfully, she wouldn't mind the extra time. She said she thought that it was maybe okay to try Babywise techniques now. (this made me sad)
We chatted, and I told her that she was filling his emotional and nutritive needs by letting him nurse on demand...and that his Dr. had explained that he was gaining nearly 3 oz per day, but his stomach was only the size of his fist...and she seemed to change her mind on the whole schedule thing.
BUT....tonight, we were at her house for dinner. And even though he's in the middle of his 6 week growth spurt, dh and I watched them offer a fussy, crying, obviously hungry baby everything *but* the breast for nearly 2 hours. So that it would be *3* hours since he last nursed. :( My breasts let-down, hearing that baby cry so much. :( :(
I didn't say anything, other than a couple of "he sounds hungry to me" comments.
I will see her in church tomorrow - any nice ways of talking with her? Or perhaps I should give up, because she's obviously got her mind made up? I really don't want to lose this woman as a friend. Either from me being too pushy OR from me being too sad about her kiddo.
:(
Thanks.
We chatted, and I told her that she was filling his emotional and nutritive needs by letting him nurse on demand...and that his Dr. had explained that he was gaining nearly 3 oz per day, but his stomach was only the size of his fist...and she seemed to change her mind on the whole schedule thing.
BUT....tonight, we were at her house for dinner. And even though he's in the middle of his 6 week growth spurt, dh and I watched them offer a fussy, crying, obviously hungry baby everything *but* the breast for nearly 2 hours. So that it would be *3* hours since he last nursed. :( My breasts let-down, hearing that baby cry so much. :( :(
I didn't say anything, other than a couple of "he sounds hungry to me" comments.
I will see her in church tomorrow - any nice ways of talking with her? Or perhaps I should give up, because she's obviously got her mind made up? I really don't want to lose this woman as a friend. Either from me being too pushy OR from me being too sad about her kiddo.
:(
Thanks.