Micah
04-23-2005, 10:40 AM
Ok ladies, bear with me pleeaaase, I have so much to learn! Our family is just starting our journey with GD so we still have some (ok a lot) of punitive habits and hooks in us. :shifty
Was this 'ok' in *your* book or punitive?
I am all for the helping when it comes to picking/cleaning up for young children...however my almost 4 year old, almost 7 year old and almost 9 year old were coloring at the table...I gave them a 5 minute 'transistion warning'...then when the 5 mins were up let them know that I needed them to clear the table so we can have lunch...then it proceeded into....the 6 and 8 yr old each pulling on the end of my 9 year old dd's stuffed animal which was on the table and before it could be stopped, the animal ripped and the beads (beanie type animal) started spilling out. :hissyfit
Ok so I 'can' fix it! However they are paying me for my time...the boy is sweeping the whole garage and the girl is cleaning/sweeping bathrooms...rather then getting $ for the extra work, they are paying me for my time to repair/mend the toy....
I also ended up picking up all the coloring paraphanalia....so no more 'table fun' for the day as they aren't ready to pick up after themselves (coloring, games, puzzles etc)
OK? not ok? Given their ages I felt it was not punitive as they do have a concept of working and earning money etc....
Was this 'ok' in *your* book or punitive?
I am all for the helping when it comes to picking/cleaning up for young children...however my almost 4 year old, almost 7 year old and almost 9 year old were coloring at the table...I gave them a 5 minute 'transistion warning'...then when the 5 mins were up let them know that I needed them to clear the table so we can have lunch...then it proceeded into....the 6 and 8 yr old each pulling on the end of my 9 year old dd's stuffed animal which was on the table and before it could be stopped, the animal ripped and the beads (beanie type animal) started spilling out. :hissyfit
Ok so I 'can' fix it! However they are paying me for my time...the boy is sweeping the whole garage and the girl is cleaning/sweeping bathrooms...rather then getting $ for the extra work, they are paying me for my time to repair/mend the toy....
I also ended up picking up all the coloring paraphanalia....so no more 'table fun' for the day as they aren't ready to pick up after themselves (coloring, games, puzzles etc)
OK? not ok? Given their ages I felt it was not punitive as they do have a concept of working and earning money etc....