Mamatoto
04-18-2005, 01:17 PM
HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :think
This summer is going to give me an ulcer. :mad
Here's my scenarios:
Last week the neighborhood kids had early dismissal so one day I let dd play out there all afternoon while ds slept. Well, once ds was awake I wanted to take him for a walk in his stroller, so I told dd that we would be going for a walk in ten minutes. I came out with ds and dd was on her bike and we began our normal route around the neighborhood. Well, two minutes into the walk dd began whining about wanting to go back and play with her friends. When that didn't work, she began a tirade about how thirsty she was. (she had that entire ten minutes to get a drink if needed) Then she began on her knees hurting. So here we are ds and I trying to enjoy the nice afternoon and dd following us crying and whining. I told her that if she didn't stop that we would go back home and stay inside until dh came home (1/2 hour later). She didn't stop and so I turned around and headed back with a hysterical child following me on her bike. She began screaming shut up to me over and over and I swiftly took her off her bike, left the bike on the grass, and held her hand, firmly walking her while pushing the stroller. I told her very firmly to stop saying shut up but she continued to scream it over and over the entire walk back to the house. I told her that she would not be playing with her friends the next day (sat.) because she was showing me she could not handle things and because we do not say shut up or hurt each other in our family. Then she started swinging at me and I had to restrain her in the community driveway area until I could get her back inside the house. The next day, although her friends came over numerous times, we did not allow her to play with them. She played in our yard with us nearby. Dh made sure she understood that screaming shut up at me and hitting were not acceptable.
Then today...
We went outside and to a playground this morning. This afternoon ds was napping and I told her that she could go outside and stay where I can see her-she knows the designated areas where she is allowed. Well, twice she violated the rules and so I brought her inside and told her that we would go back out when ds woke up and I was ready to go out with her. I got her busy at the table making necklaces and a few minutes later a knock came and her friend wanted her to play. I told the friend that she would be out later and that right now we were busy. Dd started swinging at me again right there at the door. She screamed at me and cried and then began kicking me. I sat on her to get her to stop and firmly told her that we would not be going out to play now.
I will take her on a walk but she is clearly having a horrible time accepting any boundaries that I lay out and I will not let her play with her friends when she acts like this!
So am I going to have to go through this everyday or will she eventually begin to accept that sometimes she cannot go outside when she wants to???????
This summer is going to give me an ulcer. :mad
Here's my scenarios:
Last week the neighborhood kids had early dismissal so one day I let dd play out there all afternoon while ds slept. Well, once ds was awake I wanted to take him for a walk in his stroller, so I told dd that we would be going for a walk in ten minutes. I came out with ds and dd was on her bike and we began our normal route around the neighborhood. Well, two minutes into the walk dd began whining about wanting to go back and play with her friends. When that didn't work, she began a tirade about how thirsty she was. (she had that entire ten minutes to get a drink if needed) Then she began on her knees hurting. So here we are ds and I trying to enjoy the nice afternoon and dd following us crying and whining. I told her that if she didn't stop that we would go back home and stay inside until dh came home (1/2 hour later). She didn't stop and so I turned around and headed back with a hysterical child following me on her bike. She began screaming shut up to me over and over and I swiftly took her off her bike, left the bike on the grass, and held her hand, firmly walking her while pushing the stroller. I told her very firmly to stop saying shut up but she continued to scream it over and over the entire walk back to the house. I told her that she would not be playing with her friends the next day (sat.) because she was showing me she could not handle things and because we do not say shut up or hurt each other in our family. Then she started swinging at me and I had to restrain her in the community driveway area until I could get her back inside the house. The next day, although her friends came over numerous times, we did not allow her to play with them. She played in our yard with us nearby. Dh made sure she understood that screaming shut up at me and hitting were not acceptable.
Then today...
We went outside and to a playground this morning. This afternoon ds was napping and I told her that she could go outside and stay where I can see her-she knows the designated areas where she is allowed. Well, twice she violated the rules and so I brought her inside and told her that we would go back out when ds woke up and I was ready to go out with her. I got her busy at the table making necklaces and a few minutes later a knock came and her friend wanted her to play. I told the friend that she would be out later and that right now we were busy. Dd started swinging at me again right there at the door. She screamed at me and cried and then began kicking me. I sat on her to get her to stop and firmly told her that we would not be going out to play now.
I will take her on a walk but she is clearly having a horrible time accepting any boundaries that I lay out and I will not let her play with her friends when she acts like this!
So am I going to have to go through this everyday or will she eventually begin to accept that sometimes she cannot go outside when she wants to???????