Charlie U
04-02-2005, 06:47 PM
I'm ready to run away from home.
Rebecca, nearly four, just will not listen. Neither does Rachel, 20 months. Naturally, I'm not expecting the baby to listen all the time. I'm afraid that Rebecca is imitating Rachel's behavior. Add being four to that, and there you go.
Tonight, they're running around the house. Occassionally, they will stop, look at each other, and they will scream. Rebecca will start, then Rachel. Rebecca will chase Rachel and bother her until she starts to cry. She'll grab her arms, things like that. I repeatedly, and I mean many times through out the day, tell Rebecca to leave Rachel alone. Specific things. Rebecca, don't pull Rachel. Rebecca, don't throw your sister to the ground. It eventually ends up with a very exasperated REBECCA, LEAVE RACHEL BE! By that point, Rachel is crying. (Tonight? Mommy has a headache from all the screaming and getting them off the stairs.) :hissyfit Having to repeat things over and over is frustrating. I know it's making things worse. Rebecca is excellant at pushing limits. I'm not expecting her to listen the first time, every time.
I get the exact same results when I physically seperate them. I put Rebecca in the comfort corner. She'll settle down, then repeat the same behavior. Or Rachel will not understand that it's quiet time for Rebecca and will try to climb on the chair, too. Which will make Rebecca scream because she knows she needs quiet time.
I try positive things. Dh and I always compliment the girls when they play nicely together. We both try to spend time with them seperately. Both of their behaviors improve dramatically. Rebecca can whip everyone in the house into a frenzy. :hissyfit I'm not expecting peace. I wouldn't have had kids if I wanted peace. I just want to not be angry at my girls.
Rebecca, nearly four, just will not listen. Neither does Rachel, 20 months. Naturally, I'm not expecting the baby to listen all the time. I'm afraid that Rebecca is imitating Rachel's behavior. Add being four to that, and there you go.
Tonight, they're running around the house. Occassionally, they will stop, look at each other, and they will scream. Rebecca will start, then Rachel. Rebecca will chase Rachel and bother her until she starts to cry. She'll grab her arms, things like that. I repeatedly, and I mean many times through out the day, tell Rebecca to leave Rachel alone. Specific things. Rebecca, don't pull Rachel. Rebecca, don't throw your sister to the ground. It eventually ends up with a very exasperated REBECCA, LEAVE RACHEL BE! By that point, Rachel is crying. (Tonight? Mommy has a headache from all the screaming and getting them off the stairs.) :hissyfit Having to repeat things over and over is frustrating. I know it's making things worse. Rebecca is excellant at pushing limits. I'm not expecting her to listen the first time, every time.
I get the exact same results when I physically seperate them. I put Rebecca in the comfort corner. She'll settle down, then repeat the same behavior. Or Rachel will not understand that it's quiet time for Rebecca and will try to climb on the chair, too. Which will make Rebecca scream because she knows she needs quiet time.
I try positive things. Dh and I always compliment the girls when they play nicely together. We both try to spend time with them seperately. Both of their behaviors improve dramatically. Rebecca can whip everyone in the house into a frenzy. :hissyfit I'm not expecting peace. I wouldn't have had kids if I wanted peace. I just want to not be angry at my girls.