kklibrarian
04-01-2005, 08:03 AM
Ok, this is going to sound fuzzy and complicated, but I'll try and explain so maybe someone can help me. I have a pretty intense personality....I'm not loud or aggressive, but I feel things deeply, and I'm prone to some dissassociated anxiety (feeling fearful when they're is no tangible reason to be afraid). These problems aren't severe, but I do tend to be more "antsy" around my period. My DD, who is 2 years and 9 months old, can really sense when I'm nervous and she responds by focusing in on me and talking at me constantly. I say "talking at" rather than "talking to" because it's more repetition than communication. For example, this morning, we had the following exchange:
DD: Mama Kelly, Mama Kelly Mama Kelly (so fast I can't actually respond before she repeats several times)
Me: Yes, what?
DD: My baby is sleeping.
Me: That's good.
DD: Mama Kelly. My baby is sleeping. She's sleeping. She's sleeping... Mama Kelly... Mama Kelly..... Mama Kelly..... Listen to me.... She's sleeping..... Mama Kelly.... Mama Kelly.....
Me: I understand. You should help her to sleep.
DD: Mama Kelly..... She's sleeping, sleeping, sleeping. Mama Kelly.......
At this point, I got kind of snappish with her and told her to be quiet because I was jumpy. I feel bad about this, but I was at my wits end. She often gets into these repetitive grooves with her speech, but they are more intense when she can sense that I'm on edge. They wouldn't be so unnerving, except that she seems to expect me to come up with continued new responses to the same phrase repeated eighty times. I know my daughter's not responsible for my moods, and that she is picking up on the nervousness that she feels from me, but I just need some advice on how to get through mornings like these without a melt down and without making her feel bad.
HELP, please!
Kelly
DD: Mama Kelly, Mama Kelly Mama Kelly (so fast I can't actually respond before she repeats several times)
Me: Yes, what?
DD: My baby is sleeping.
Me: That's good.
DD: Mama Kelly. My baby is sleeping. She's sleeping. She's sleeping... Mama Kelly... Mama Kelly..... Mama Kelly..... Listen to me.... She's sleeping..... Mama Kelly.... Mama Kelly.....
Me: I understand. You should help her to sleep.
DD: Mama Kelly..... She's sleeping, sleeping, sleeping. Mama Kelly.......
At this point, I got kind of snappish with her and told her to be quiet because I was jumpy. I feel bad about this, but I was at my wits end. She often gets into these repetitive grooves with her speech, but they are more intense when she can sense that I'm on edge. They wouldn't be so unnerving, except that she seems to expect me to come up with continued new responses to the same phrase repeated eighty times. I know my daughter's not responsible for my moods, and that she is picking up on the nervousness that she feels from me, but I just need some advice on how to get through mornings like these without a melt down and without making her feel bad.
HELP, please!
Kelly