gracieannsmom
03-31-2005, 08:57 PM
I can't believe what I witnessed today. On our base we had this wonderful conference called Thrive for women who's husbands are deployed. The whole day was filled with great info and I learned a lot and was feeling refreshed until.....we broke out into smaller sessions in the afternoon. I joined the session for parents with kids 0-10 years old since I have an 18 month old dd. The session started great, I was actually learning some ideas about how to stop and listen to my daughter so I don't fly off the handle, etc. THEN, one women raised her hand and mentioned how her son who is 8 months old is getting to the point where he thinks he runs the house, that if he cries she'll come running and she claimed it "had to stop" that he was "controlling" her :shifty The other women were all nodding and agreeing and I was fuming. Then another woman piped in regarding her 5 month old and how he too does that and how you need to "start traning them early" so they will know that they can't have everything they want right away, or even at all. The woman running the session added that when she first became a mom she wondered how people could be so cruel as to let a baby CIO until she realized how manipulative babies are and how controlling they are of us and then she decided those cruel people were right :eek :banghead
I had to hold my tongue but I was fuming and ready to burst. I almost walked out but I couldn't get through the crowd of women all around me without making a scene. It was insane and here there were about 20 vulnerable women, three who were pregnant and this was the kind of advice being given? I wanted to chime in but I was too shy and I knew I would just burst and fly off the handle and cause a fight. I wish I could have thought of a diplomatic way to say something.
It gets even better too...after that someone else mentioned how important it is to be on a schedule every day starting from birth so kids will know exactly what to expect. They made their homes sound like boot camp if you ask me. There is nothing wrong with a routine but a rigid schedule? All the women seemed to agree but me. I was just so angry about it.
Thanks for hearing me out!
I had to hold my tongue but I was fuming and ready to burst. I almost walked out but I couldn't get through the crowd of women all around me without making a scene. It was insane and here there were about 20 vulnerable women, three who were pregnant and this was the kind of advice being given? I wanted to chime in but I was too shy and I knew I would just burst and fly off the handle and cause a fight. I wish I could have thought of a diplomatic way to say something.
It gets even better too...after that someone else mentioned how important it is to be on a schedule every day starting from birth so kids will know exactly what to expect. They made their homes sound like boot camp if you ask me. There is nothing wrong with a routine but a rigid schedule? All the women seemed to agree but me. I was just so angry about it.
Thanks for hearing me out!