lovemytwins
03-24-2005, 04:00 PM
First I want to say what a blessing this board is. With the little time I have, I try to check the board often.....you all are very helpful and wise. Thank you! Here goes,my bad day.... :cry
My MIL(Christian,pro-spanking) and I took my toddler twin boys shopping at an outdoor mall. They are usually fine,not today. They screamed or whined often,did not want to stay in their jogger and while walking holding our hands tried to get away or had a little tantru. My MIL and I are in a debate about discipline right now,so I felt sort of stressed about how to handle things. I gave her a copy of Heartfelt Discipline-she thought it was ridiculous.
So during their tantrums or wrestling with me to get away,not listening etc I would bear hug,and tell them to stop or no.......it was like total chaos,I was at a loss. I even prayed during one of the tantrums, I was so in need of help. During an attempted escape from the stroller I swatted one of my boys on the bottom(so regret it) My MIL was thrilled. It was as if she thought she won something. She said sometimes you have to spank and he was being disobedient. I eventually brought the boys to the car and drove around while she shopped. My boys are very strong and solid, so I have a hard time bear hugging or physically removing them from a situation. Oh man, I don't know what I am doing and feel as if we can never leave the house again. What should I have done? I so want to understand GBD and have it come naturally!! I'm so tired and hope I'm making sense. Could this behaviour just be their age? :heart
In Christ-
MiMi
My MIL(Christian,pro-spanking) and I took my toddler twin boys shopping at an outdoor mall. They are usually fine,not today. They screamed or whined often,did not want to stay in their jogger and while walking holding our hands tried to get away or had a little tantru. My MIL and I are in a debate about discipline right now,so I felt sort of stressed about how to handle things. I gave her a copy of Heartfelt Discipline-she thought it was ridiculous.
So during their tantrums or wrestling with me to get away,not listening etc I would bear hug,and tell them to stop or no.......it was like total chaos,I was at a loss. I even prayed during one of the tantrums, I was so in need of help. During an attempted escape from the stroller I swatted one of my boys on the bottom(so regret it) My MIL was thrilled. It was as if she thought she won something. She said sometimes you have to spank and he was being disobedient. I eventually brought the boys to the car and drove around while she shopped. My boys are very strong and solid, so I have a hard time bear hugging or physically removing them from a situation. Oh man, I don't know what I am doing and feel as if we can never leave the house again. What should I have done? I so want to understand GBD and have it come naturally!! I'm so tired and hope I'm making sense. Could this behaviour just be their age? :heart
In Christ-
MiMi