Mothering by Heart
03-15-2005, 06:33 PM
DD , 9 was at the neighbors house playing with their dd. Their dd had another friend come over and play. They played together all afternoon until the neighbors came to our house for a BBQ. The mom came in and said, "You have to read this. It hilarious" After our dd's were not in the room, she showed my a letter that my dd had written to a friend that lives out of state. She wrote while at the neighbors house, and my neighbor saw her stuff it under a pillow. Hope this all makes sense :O
Anyway, the letter said, Dear A, I am playing at K's house. There is another girl here and she is not the kind of person I would like to be friends with. She's weird. She's kind of nice, but not too nice"
Love, M
The next morning, I got the chance to talk to dd about it. I said, "K found this at her house" She immediately looked scared and said, "she did?"
I asked her what the other girl might have felt like if she had found the note. My dd was upset and said that it would make her feel pretty sad. I also told dd that it was ok to feel that way about someone, that she should decide who would/would not be a good friend, but that maybe next time she should write in her journal instead or come talk to me.
Was there anything else I should have done? Truth be told, I am happy that she is discerning who would or would not make a good friend.
Anyway, the letter said, Dear A, I am playing at K's house. There is another girl here and she is not the kind of person I would like to be friends with. She's weird. She's kind of nice, but not too nice"
Love, M
The next morning, I got the chance to talk to dd about it. I said, "K found this at her house" She immediately looked scared and said, "she did?"
I asked her what the other girl might have felt like if she had found the note. My dd was upset and said that it would make her feel pretty sad. I also told dd that it was ok to feel that way about someone, that she should decide who would/would not be a good friend, but that maybe next time she should write in her journal instead or come talk to me.
Was there anything else I should have done? Truth be told, I am happy that she is discerning who would or would not make a good friend.