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flowermama
03-14-2005, 11:35 PM
The Gentle Christian Mothers (GCM) message board is for all mothers-to-be, mothers, and grandmothers. It's a wonderful place of encouragement, and we invite you to come and be part of it! We welcome those who are new to the board with open arms.

Before you begin posting, please read our Statement of Beliefs (http://www.gentlechristianmothers.com/aboutgcm/beliefs.php) so you can get a feel for what we believe. One of the primary focuses of our board is to provide a safe haven for like-minded mothers, and we stand confidently firm in our support of these beliefs. As such, please do not post things to the board that are purposefully or argumentatively contrary to our statement of beliefs.

You are still very welcome to join the GCM community even if you don't agree with all the points in the GCM statement of beliefs. We'd love to get to know you and to encourage you as we seek together to grow in gentleness and love for our children, our husbands, and, most importantly, our Lord.

To those who are reading this prior to filling out your application to join the GCM community: Please note that lying on your application will be grounds for immediate banning.

Before posting, please also take the time to read our Netiquette Guide (http://www.gentlechristianmothers.com/community/showthread.php?t=114028).

Specific Rules

Beyond the broad rule of not posting things which are against the GCM Statement of Beliefs (http://www.gentlechristianmothers.com/aboutgcm/beliefs.php), here are some specifics.

1. No posts promoting or supportive of punishments, including spanking and traditional timeouts, or other punitive ideas.

2. No posts promoting or supportive of crying it out (CIO). CIO is when children are left unattended to cry themselves to sleep. Babies cry and that is to be expected, but on this board we do not support leaving a baby to cry alone. There are formal and informal methods of CIO, and neither are endorsed here.

3. No profanity or obscenity (including abbreviations and combinations of asterisks, exclamation points, etc., put together in order to stand for an unnamed profanity or obscenity)—it will be edited out or censored.

4. Any personal disagreements including discussions about actions taken by board admins and mods should not be done on the boards. If you need to discuss it, then please directly contact the person who you disagree with. Do not bring other people into it. This follows the Biblical outline for how to deal with conflict. (MT 18:15 "If your brother sins against you, go and show him his fault, just between the two of you.")

5. No name-calling, fighting with, or harassing other members. Also, no name-calling family members.

6. No trolling, spamming, or flaming. SPAM and commercial postings will be deleted including links to websites that pay you for directing people to their site. A text link to your website in your signature line is fine.

7. Post posts only once. No cross-posting (x-posting) the same post in multiple forums. Also, no making posts directing others to a thread you started in another forum -- that is considered to be a x-post. When a post is x-posted, one of the x-posts will be removed and x-posted threads will be combined if appropriate.

8. Start threads in the proper forum. For example, posts about breastfeeding go in the Breastfeeding forum, posts about food prep go in the Cookbook forum, posts about your toddler go in the Little Explorers forum, etc. Which forum is the best fit can be subjective, so do the best you can, and an admin or mod will move it if we feel that it might fit better in another forum.

9. No using the boards to promote personal crusades or preoccupations. We're not here to help you pursue specific agendas or win any converts. Single-issue preaching is not allowed.

10. If you announce on the board that you are leaving (or if you ask to have your account removed), your "good-bye" thread (if you have one) will be locked, and your account will be deactivated within 24 hours. If your account is deactivated, you may ask to have it reactivated, but please note that when an account is deactivated membership to MBA forums will be removed, and access will be restored at the discretion of the administration.

11. No posting copyrighted materials to the board—brief excerpts allowed, except do not post posts from other message boards, from mailing lists, from blogs, or from Facebook pages (see our copyright policy (http://www.gentlechristianmothers.com/community/showthread.php?p=5781768#post5781768)).

12. No copying/pasting any thread or part thereof from our board to anywhere off our board. Do not discuss posts or threads with anyone who does not have access to the forum where they are posted. Note: Ideas and concepts learned here may be discussed. (See Expectations of Privacy on GCM (http://www.gentlechristianmothers.com/community/showthread.php?p=5793502#post5793502).)

13. No soliciting copies of copyrighted videos/DVDs or other media.

14. No letting anyone else, including your husband, read or post to the board with your account or use your account for any reason.

15. No posting personal addresses or phone numbers to the board.

16. Should you wish to post photographs of your children to the board, please do so only in non-public forums. (Public forums are those which can be seen by non-members and are labeled "*public*"; all the others are considered "non-public.")

17. No hotlinking (http://simple.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hot-linking).

18. No posting without approval regarding anything that requires exchange of addresses between members including but not limited to requests for pen pals or to items for sale, swap, or free.

19. No posting live links to sites that violate our statement of parenting beliefs, such as sites that promote CIO or punitive parenting. An easy way to make a link inactive is by putting tags around the link.
Example: Doing this http://www.gentlechristianmothers.com/community gives you this result http://www.gentlechristianmothers.com/community.
Please Note: Posting live links to all other sites (that are appropriate to be linked-to on GCM), including those that violate our statement of faith, is acceptable.

20. Out of respect for other online communities and to stay true to the purpose of GCM, no linking to other message boards or encouraging GCM members to participate in debates or controversial discussions elsewhere online, including blogs and social networking sites (such as Facebook).

21. Discussions outside of the GCM Statement of Beliefs should not be carried out via GCM's PM system, and please do not solicit emails on topics that contradict the Statement of Beliefs.

22. No sharing Personal Messages (PM's) with another person without the author's permission unless there is a need to report it for violating board guidelines.

23. No posts harshly dissecting parenting moments of others seen or heard about either in real life or online since we desire to humbly cultivate a heart attitude of grace and not judgment towards other mamas. We all struggle at times as parents and have much to learn, and GCM's focus is to provide tools and information for each of us to parent more effectively. Posts voicing some frustration regarding choices made by others can be okay, but it needs to be within the overall context of seeking understanding or ideas for better responses in the future.

24. To help other members feel welcome to respond in threads, avoid putting a member's name in your subject line when seeking feedback from a specific member. Instead consider either PMing her with your question or (if you also want input from others) posting and then PMing her letting her know about your post and that you would value her response.

25. No posting in support of alcoholism or illegal drug use. We reserve the right to remove posts or close discussions that we feel are questionable or promoting the use of illegal substances or abuse of alcohol.

26. Jesus equated lusting in our hearts with adultery and our Statement of Beliefs express the purpose of the board to uphold marriage as a sacred covenant. In that spirit, all posts and threads that go down the path of giving undue attention to men not our husbands (including, but not limited to celebrities) will be removed.

Please keep in mind these standards when posting:
"Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest,
whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things
are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue,
and if there be any praise, think on these things." ~ Phil 4:8


Also see Policy for Posting Copyrighted Materials to the Board (http://www.gentlechristianmothers.com/community/showthread.php?p=5781768#post5781768) and Rules for Signature Lines (http://www.gentlechristianmothers.com/community/showthread.php?t=505650).

flowermama
04-08-2005, 06:03 PM
Please note: Number nine in the rules was updated today. It now reads, "If you announce on the board that you are leaving, your account will be deactivated within 24 hours, at which time your "good-bye" thread will be locked."

Also added this clarification to number 7: "Do the best you can at choosing the proper forum, and an admin or mod will move it if we feel that it might fit better in another forum."

flowermama
05-03-2005, 05:26 PM
Added "obscenity" to number three on May 3, 2005.

kris10s
05-16-2005, 08:01 AM
A site to help determine if something is in the public domain can be found at
http://www.unc.edu/~unclng/public-d.htm

flowermama
05-31-2005, 06:12 PM
On May 29th I added...

this to number five: "Also, no name-calling family members."

this clarification to number 10 (even though it's already mentioned in the copyright guidelines -- just wanted to make sure people saw it) "except do not post posts from other message boards or from mailing lists"

11. No copying/pasting any thread or part thereof from our board to anywhere off our board.

12. No soliciting copies of copyrighted videos/dvds.

13. No letting other people post to the board using your account.

14. No posting personal addresses or phone numbers to the board.

flowermama
07-26-2005, 01:15 AM
On July 29, 2005, in the signature guideliness I broke number one up into two points:

It was like this....

1. You may put emoticons and small blinkies in your signature line.

It now reads as follows:

1. You may put emoticons in your signature line.

2. You may put up to three small blinkies in your signature line (choose blinkies no bigger than 150 width and 21 height).

flowermama
10-03-2005, 10:40 AM
Added "or Counter Box™" to signature line rule number 3. :)

flowermama
10-06-2005, 02:14 PM
added "15. No hotlinking."

flowermama
10-27-2005, 11:53 AM
For clarify's sake, rule number one has been changed a little.

It used to read:

1. No posts promoting or supportive of spanking, traditional timeouts, or other punitive discipline.

It now says:

1. No posts promoting or supportive of punishments, including spanking and traditional timeouts, or other punitive ideas.

flowermama
10-31-2005, 11:36 PM
Some additions were made on October 29, 2005. . .

Added to number nine. It now reads as follows:

9. If you announce on the board that you are leaving (or if you ask to have your account removed), your account will be deactivated within 24 hours, at which time your "good-bye" thread (if you have one) will be locked. If your account is deactivated, you may ask to have it reactivated again, but please note that when an account is deactivated, membership to MBA forums will be removed and your post count reset to 0 (though your posts will still be there).

Added number sixteen:

16. No posting pictures in public forums.

Added this to signature guideline number three:

No "ticker pictures" (images attached to tickers), please.

eta: also recently number seven of the signature line rules was added to a little. Where it says, "7. You may put a link (text only -- not using a graphic) to your website in your signature line," "(text only -- not using a graphic)" was added.

flowermama
11-04-2005, 01:16 PM
Removed number 16 while we discuss it some more. :o)

flowermama
11-21-2005, 07:59 PM
Okay, here's rule 16 again, a little different. ;)

16. Should you wish to post photographs of your children to the board, please do so only in non-public forums. (Public forums are those which can be seen by non-members and are labeld "*public*"; all the others are considered "non-public.")

flowermama
12-22-2005, 04:48 PM
Added this to number three to help clarify... "and combinations of asterisks, exclamation points, etc., put together in order to stand for an unnamed profanity or obscenity."

flowermama
03-08-2006, 04:56 AM
Adding... 17. No posting items for sale, swap, or free without approval.

flowermama
07-15-2006, 01:49 AM
18. No posting live links to sites that violate our statement of parenting beliefs (example: sites that promote CIO or punitive parenting). You can easily break such links by adding a space after www. -- example http://www. gentlechristianmothers.com/mb. No linking whatsoever to Christian discussion boards where punitive mothers go for support. Please Note: Posting live links to all other sites, including sites that violate our statement of faith, is acceptable; if we have a concern about any other links, an admin or moderator will break the link for you, so please don't worry about it.

flowermama
08-16-2006, 12:08 PM
"No linking whatsoever to Christian discussion boards where punitive mothers go for support" was removed from 18 and is now is part of a new rule -- number 19.

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18. No posting live links to sites that violate our statement of parenting beliefs (example: sites that promote CIO or punitive parenting). You can easily break such links by adding a space after www. -- example http://www. gentlechristianmothers.com/mb. Please Note: Posting live links to all other sites (that are appropriate to be linked-to on GCM), including those that violate our statement of faith, is acceptable.

19. Out of respect for other online communities and to stay true to the purpose of GCM, no linking to other message boards or encouraging GCM members to participate in debates or controversial discussions elsewhere online.

flowermama
08-16-2006, 12:56 PM
Okay, let's make it an even 20. :giggle :shifty This is one we've meant to add for a little while now. We had something similar regarding PM's on the old board, but we never had a rule posted here on this board, so without future ado, here is rule number 20...

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20. Discussions outside of the GCM Statement of Beliefs should not be carried out via GCM's PM system, and please do not solicit emails on topics that contradict the Statement of Beliefs.

flowermama
01-07-2007, 07:21 PM
Number nine changed from this:

9. If you announce on the board that you are leaving (or if you ask to have your account removed), your account will be deactivated within 24 hours, at which time your "good-bye" thread (if you have one) will be locked. If your account is deactivated, you may ask to have it reactivated again, but please note that when an account is deactivated, membership to MBA forums will be removed and your post count reset to 0 (though your posts will still be there).

to this:

9. If you announce on the board that you are leaving (or if you ask to have your account removed), your "good-bye" thread (if you have one) will be locked, and your account will be deactivated within 24 hours. If your account is deactivated, you may ask to have it reactivated, but please note that when an account is deactivated membership to MBA forums will be removed, and access will be restored at the discrection of the administration.

flowermama
06-19-2007, 05:16 PM
Changed siggy line rule number seven from this:

You may put a link (text only -- not using a graphic) to your website in your signature line, but we reserve the right to ask you to remove it if it is a link to a site that promotes things which are against our statement of beliefs.

to this:

You may put a link (text only -- not using a graphic) to your website, including personal WAHM websites, in your signature line, but we ask that you not put partnered revenue-linked sites in your signature line.  We reserve the right to remove or ask you to remove it if it is a link to a site that promotes things which are against our statement of beliefs.

flowermama
07-12-2007, 02:05 AM
21. No sharing Personal Messages (PM's) with another person without the author's permission unless there is a need to report it for violating board guidelines.

flowermama
08-03-2007, 12:46 AM
Added this to signature line guidelines:
6. You may add a graphic of your name -- no bigger than 150 pixels wide x 45 pixels high -- in your signature line.

flowermama
08-27-2007, 02:48 PM
7. Post your messages in the proper forums, and only post them once. Do the best you can at choosing the proper forum, and an admin or mod will move it if we feel that it might fit better in another forum.

That rule was split into two rules as follows:

7. Post posts only once. No cross-posting (x-posting) the same post in mulitiple forums. Also, no making posts directing others to a thread you started in another forum -- that is considered to be a x-post. When a post is x-posted, one of the x-posts will be removed and x-posted threads will be combined if approriate.

8. Start threads in the proper forum. For example, posts about breastfeeding go in the Breastfeeding forum, posts about food prep go in the Cookbook forum, posts about your toddler go in the Little Explorers forum, etc. Which forum is the best fit can be subjective, so do the best you can, and an admin or mod will move it if we feel that it might fit better in another foum.

flowermama
10-04-2007, 04:38 AM
Removed this rule:
17. Should you wish to post photographs of your children to the board, please do so only in non-public forums. (Public forums are those which can be seen by non-members and are labeled "*public*"; all the others are considered "non-public.")

It was removed because a modification was added to the board that makes it so that one has to be logged in in order to view images posted in threads.

flowermama
10-26-2007, 09:19 AM
edited signature line rules to say that "'Ticker pictures' (images attached to tickers) are allowed."

flowermama
02-04-2008, 12:09 AM
Today I added this:

To those who are reading this prior to filling out your application to join the GCM community: Please note that lying on your application will be grounds for immediate banning.

flowermama
03-14-2008, 11:57 PM
I just added number 22:

No posts harshly dissecting parenting moments of others since we desire to humbly cultivate a heart attitude of grace and not judgment towards other mamas. We all struggle at times as parents and have much to learn, and GCM's focus is to provide tools and information for each of us to parent more effectively. Posts voicing some frustration regarding choices made by others can be okay, but it needs to be within the overall context of seeking understanding or ideas for better responses in the future.

flowermama
04-26-2008, 12:32 PM
Today number six was changed from this. . .

6. No trolling, spamming, or flaming. SPAM and commercial postings will be deleted. A text link to your website in your signature line is fine.

to this. . .

6. No trolling, spamming, or flaming. SPAM and commercial postings will be deleted including links to websites that pay you for directing people to their site. A text link to your website in your signature line is fine.

flowermama
05-03-2008, 04:09 PM
I added to number 11 and 19 for clarification purposes. Please note that to help show what was changed, I've put the changes in blue.

Changed this:
11. No posting copyrighted materials to the board -- brief excerpts allowed, except do not post posts from other message boards or from mailing lists (see copyright policy below).

to this:
11. No posting copyrighted materials to the board -- brief excerpts allowed, except do not post posts from other message boards, from mailing lists, or from blogs (see copyright policy below).

Changed this:
19. Out of respect for other online communities and to stay true to the purpose of GCM, no linking to other message boards or encouraging GCM members to participate in debates or controversial discussions elsewhere online.

to this:
19. Out of respect for other online communities and to stay true to the purpose of GCM, no linking to other message boards or encouraging GCM members to participate in debates or controversial discussions elsewhere online, including blogs.

flowermama
07-14-2008, 02:08 AM
Small update in sigline rule for blinky size. Changed sigline rule two from this:

2. You may put up to three small blinkies in your signature line (choose blinkies no bigger than 150 width and 24 height).

back to this (re-added the word "approximately"):

2. You may put up to three small blinkies in your signature line (choose blinkies no bigger than approximately 150 width and 24 height).

Initially when the rule was made back in the summer of 2005 it didn't say "approxiately," but sometime toward the end of 2005 or so the word "approximately" was added. Somehow, sometime that word got removed (and I can't figure out how or why it got removed). I guess I must have accidentally removed it or something? Anyway, so I've added it back. Please do try to choose blinkies which are no bigger than 150 width and 24 height, but if your favorite blinky is a few pixels bigger, we'll understand. :heart

flowermama
02-06-2009, 04:31 PM
This was added today:

To help other members feel welcome to respond in threads, avoid putting a member's name in your subject line when seeking feedback from a specific member. Instead consider either PMing her with your question or (if you also want input from others) posting and then PMing her letting her know about your post and that you would value her response.

flowermama
03-01-2009, 06:47 PM
Changing this:
14. No letting other people post to the board using your account.

to this:
14. No letting anyone else, including your husband, post to the board with your account or use your account for any reason.

flowermama
07-02-2009, 02:13 AM
Re-adding this rule: 16. Should you wish to post photographs of your children to the board, please do so only in non-public forums. (Public forums are those which can be seen by non-members and are labeld "*public*"; all the others are considered "non-public.")

flowermama
12-09-2009, 09:08 AM
This 18. No posting items for sale, swap, or free without approval.

is being changed to this:

No posting without approval regarding anything that requires exchange of addresses between members including but not limited to requests for pen pals or to items for sale, swap, or free.

flowermama
01-16-2010, 03:16 PM
"From Facebook pages" has been added to number eleven.

11. No posting copyrighted materials to the board -- brief excerpts allowed, except do not post posts from other message boards, from mailing lists, from blogs, or from Facebook pages (see copyright policy below).

flowermama
04-14-2010, 01:24 AM
Number 20 was changed from this:
20. Out of respect for other online communities and to stay true to the purpose of GCM, no linking to other message boards or encouraging GCM members to participate in debates or controversial discussions elsewhere online, including blogs.

to this:
20. Out of respect for other online communities and to stay true to the purpose of GCM, no linking to other message boards or encouraging GCM members to participate in debates or controversial discussions elsewhere online, including blogs and social networking sites (such as Facebook).

flowermama
07-10-2010, 05:05 PM
Added this:

No posting in support of alcoholism or illegal drug use. We reserve the right to remove posts or close discussions that we feel are questionable or promoting the use of illegal substances or abuse of alcohol.

flowermama
11-23-2010, 01:02 AM
The part in bold was added to guideline 23:

23. No posts harshly dissecting parenting moments of others seen or heard about either in real life or online since we desire to humbly cultivate a heart attitude of grace and not judgment towards other mamas. We all struggle at times as parents and have much to learn, and GCM's focus is to provide tools and information for each of us to parent more effectively. Posts voicing some frustration regarding choices made by others can be okay, but it needs to be within the overall context of seeking understanding or ideas for better responses in the future.

flowermama
04-20-2011, 01:01 AM
Some misspellings and grammatical errors in the guidelines were corrected tonight.

Also, for clarification purposes, the words "read or" were added to guideline 14:

14. No letting anyone else, including your husband, read or post to the board with your account or use your account for any reason. Part of guideline 19 was changed. It used to ask that we break certain links and gave an example of how to do that. Now it instead explains how to make a link inactive by using "noparse" tags.

19. No posting live links to sites that violate our statement of parenting beliefs, such as sites that promote CIO or punitive parenting. An easy way to make a link inactive is by putting tags around the link.
Example: Doing this http://www.gentlechristianmothers.com/community gives you this result http://www.gentlechristianmothers.com/community.
Please Note: Posting live links to all other sites (that are appropriate to be linked-to on GCM), including those that violate our statement of faith, is acceptable(In the guidelines above, the parts in bold were added tonight.)

flowermama
04-20-2011, 04:47 PM
Number 26 was added today.

26. Jesus equated lusting in our hearts with adultery and our Statement of Beliefs express the purpose of the board to uphold marriage as a sacred covenant. In that spirit, all posts and threads that go down the path of giving undue attention to men not our husbands (including, but not limited to celebrities) will be removed.

flowermama
06-10-2014, 08:19 AM
Thought I'd better note that on the 8th I split the Policy for Posting Copyrighted Materials to the Board (http://www.gentlechristianmothers.com/community/showthread.php?p=5781768#post5781768) and Rules for Signature Lines (http://www.gentlechristianmothers.com/community/showthread.php?t=505650) off into their own threads.

Because of that number eleven had a very slight update.

It did say this:
11. No posting copyrighted materials to the board -- brief excerpts allowed, except do not post posts from other message boards, from mailing lists, from blogs, or from Facebook pages (see copyright policy below).

And now it says this:
11. No posting copyrighted materials to the board—brief excerpts allowed, except do not post posts from other message boards, from mailing lists, from blogs, or from Facebook pages (see our copyright policy (http://www.gentlechristianmothers.com/community/showthread.php?p=5781768#post5781768)).

The changes made were that the word "below" was removed and now the words "copyright policy" link to the new sticky about copyright policy (copyright policy is the same -- the new sticky was made so that the copyright policy would have it's own thread, to shorten the OP and hopefully make it less overwhelming to read).

flowermama
06-26-2014, 08:46 PM
On May 29th [2005] I added...

. . .

No copying/pasting any thread or part thereof from our board to anywhere off our board.



Now it's being changed to this:

12. No copying/pasting any thread or part thereof from our board to anywhere off our board. Do not discuss posts or threads off our board with anyone who does not have access to the forum where they are posted. Note: Ideas and concepts learned here may be discussed.

GCM_Admins
06-27-2014, 11:02 AM
Twelve was updated to add (See Expectations of Privacy on GCM (http://www.gentlechristianmothers.com/community/showthread.php?p=5793502#post5793502).)

Now 12 looks like this:

12. No copying/pasting any thread or part thereof from our board to anywhere off our board. Do not discuss posts or threads off our board with anyone who does not have access to the forum where they are posted. Note: Ideas and concepts learned here may be discussed. (See Expectations of Privacy on GCM (http://www.gentlechristianmothers.com/community/showthread.php?p=5793502#post5793502).)

flowermama
07-22-2014, 04:48 PM
For clarification's sake, the words "off our board" have been removed from guideline 12 because posts or threads should not be discussed anywhere, either off or on, the board with anyone who does not have access to the forum where they are posted:

12. No copying/pasting any thread or part thereof from our board to anywhere off our board. Do not discuss posts or threads off our board with anyone who does not have access to the forum where they are posted. Note: Ideas and concepts learned here may be discussed. (See Expectations of Privacy on GCM (http://www.gentlechristianmothers.com/community/showthread.php?p=5793502#post5793502).)

Now it says this:

12. No copying/pasting any thread or part thereof from our board to anywhere off our board. Do not discuss posts or threads with anyone who does not have access to the forum where they are posted. Note: Ideas and concepts learned here may be discussed. (See Expectations of Privacy on GCM (http://www.gentlechristianmothers.com/community/showthread.php?p=5793502#post5793502).)